Some notes on the youtube video:
Daughter: Palkit
Mum: liberal (let the daughter choose what she wants to do) vs Dad: traditional (women should stay and work at home; only daughter, must get married; Grandma said on her death bed for Daughter to never become a nun)
“You must make your own decision, the secret is in your heart” – Becoming woman in Zanskar
Tenzin – Palkit’s friend
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Parents drank chang without telling her, accepted on her behalf, brought by some men
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Drinking and making offerings of chhaang are part of many pan-Tibetan social and religious occasions, including settling disputes, welcoming guests, and wooing
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Tradition: once parents drink chang, have to get married
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Need to sign marriage contract – marrying off their daughter is just a transaction?
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But Tenzin does not want to leave fam and friends and home
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Her mother – contradictory – in front of Tenzin speaks of how she knows Tenzin will be happy with the marriage – behind Tenzin admits she does not know, that Tenzin does not know anyone in the new family
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When horses came, neither father or mother was happy – so why sell her off in the first place – seems like they are blindly following tradition without much consideration?
Becoming nun to break free of the social norm of parents marrying off their daughters to a completely unknown family?
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“Becoming a nun, the only way for a women to be free, and the refuge for a broken heart” – Becoming woman in Zanskar
Girls never went to school, only boys – joining a nunnery can change that